When I considered writing an article on this subject, the first option that came to mind was to write one on what women want from men. But that can be arbitrary and often varies from woman to woman. And many times, what women want is not what women need. Thus, I’ve decided to write about what women need from the men in their lives. Boys, I’m not promising anything, but if you can master the advice I’m offering in these areas, you’ll gain the respect, appreciation, and MAYBE even the love you’re looking for! You never know. But it definitely can’t hurt! These areas have often been deal breakers/makers for me. So here goes.
The first area I’m going to tackle is protection. Boys, you will probably never know what it’s like to walk around knowing that, at any moment, a man could pretty easily overpower you, hurt you, or worse. Any time we go somewhere at night alone, or even with other girls, we’re vulnerable. Now we even have to worry about our drinks, even if its a soda or in my case water–constantly! People can so easily slip drugs into our drinks, and it happens all the time. We can’t just go on a walk down the street. We have to worry about YOU. Well, not you specifically, but you know what I mean. So. Guys. I REALLY don’t think I can over-emphasize this point. We. Need. Protection.
Case and point. I went with some friends the other night to a Mexican restaurant to do some salsa dancing. Sounds pretty chill, right? We girls had six or seven guys with us, so I figured we had nothing to worry about. Well, lo and behold, a bunch of the guys that came with us had been drinking. Great, I thought. We got to the place, and I forgot something in the car. My car was right near the door, but I was frustrated that none of the guys offered to come. I quickly and fearfully ran out, grabbed my stuff, and came back in. I didn’t know where my friends went. I couldn’t find them for about five minutes, and as soon as they noticed I looked lost, four guys started hitting on me. I smiled nervously and walked away, finally finding my friends. Those were some pretty stressful five minutes for me. I felt like no one cared to wait for me or come find me as I wandered around the restaurant feeling like a piece of meat being devoured by the eyes of all the men standing around. And since our guys had been drinking, I knew that if it came down to it, they would never be able to protect us, and they’re definitely not looking out for us. You can’t gather necessary information from your surroundings when you’re drunk. Now, I don’t think the guys didn’t look out for me on purpose, but I do think they don’t understand what it means to protect women and how important it is. Hence, this article.
Now guys, I know we’re not your “official” responsibility unless you’re dating us. But please. The world is a dangerous place for us, and you might never understand that feeling. Do you know how much I would have appreciated a guy in our group if one had offered to walk me to my car, or at least wait for me so I didn’t get lost? I would have been so impressed, and he would have jumped up a few points in my good opinion of him. Even though we think we can take care of ourselves, we love feeling looked out for, and that a guy cares enough to protect us.
So! That’s my first tip. Look out for your women. And, if you have one, your woman. She needs protection! We all do. It’s a scary world out there. Watch out for us. Make sure we get to and from places safely. Don’t let us walk alone at night. Stand up for us when we’re disrespected. And let me say, I just love it when a guy (or guys) make me feel safe and watched over. It’s very endearing. Want to know one of the ways to a woman’s heart? Take care of her.
Stay tuned! The series will continue.